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« Thread Started on Feb 26, 2010, 11:16pm » | ![[Quote]](http://s2.images.proboards.com/buttons/quote.gif "[Quote]") |
This is the first time I have ever posted on something like this, but I really need to vent! My first son, who is now 20 months, had colic and it was the worst time of my life. My new son is 5 weeks old, and I see colic rearing its ugly head again. I am in disbelief, as I never thought the odds were in favor of having 2 colicky babies!!
The worst part for me is that none of my friends have been through this, so I don't feel comfortable venting to them like I should. It makes me feel like a bad mom. Everyone keeps saying to try and enjoy this stage of life with my baby, because one day he won't be this little and sweet so don't wish away time. I want to tell them they can have the first few months because I am not enjoying his company much anyway since he cries pretty much all the time!!
On top of the frustration of dealing with colic is the fact that I have a very active 20 month old son. I am a stay-at-home mom, and my husband works night shift, so I have 4 days a week where it is pretty much only me and the 2 kids all day and night. I feel so bad for my toddler because there is a large portion of the day where I am trying to calm the baby down, leaving the toddler to entertain himself. In the evenings, I am trying to get the toddler fed and bathed and put to bed while the baby is crying. I have to sometimes let him cry while I do tend to the toddler, and it makes me feel terrible. I can't stand not being able to meet all of both kids' needs, but I am only one person. I should mention when my husband is here, he is a champ at helping out with the kids!
Anyway, we just started Prevacid a few days ago, and he is on soy formula. I tried to feed him Nutramigen today, which we had been avoiding due to the expense of it, but I couldn't get him to drink it at all! Anyone else ever run into that issue? I thought for sure that might solve some of our problems, but he was not having it! So we are back to soy. I guess I will just deal with how much it constipates him. We are also giving him probiotics, per our pedi's recommendation, but I haven't noticed much improvement. Guess time will improve the situation, but it is pretty miserable right now because he hardly sleeps. I keep thinking he will tire himself out from all of the crying like our first baby did, but he is the lightest sleeper I have ever seen and has great difficulty calming himself down if he wakes up.
I mainly needed to vent to people who get it, but I would love some tips from people who have dealt with this while trying to care for a toddler at the same time!
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« Reply #1 on Mar 2, 2010, 1:57am » | |
I know how you feel..my daughter was severely colicky..it was a terrible, and painful time, though we loved her so so much. When she was 23 months old, I gave birth to my son...around 3 weeks, I started to notice the signs...I was so scared that this would be happening again, and now with a toddler in the house.
He went on a Prevacid/zantac combo, which he is still on, and that really made a difference..he ended up not being as bad as my daughter, but sometimes I wonder if that is just because we got him on meds sooner, and also I was more equipped to deal with colic, as my hubby and I were old pros!
I too felt guilty that I had to give so much attention to my son, when my toddler was so used to having all of me..but she adjusted well, considering..one thing that helped is we put my son to bed very early (6:3-7ish) and she does not go to bed until 8:30..this way we had special time with her after the crying fest had ended.
I am so tired and was heading off to bed, but I can "chat" more with you later if you like
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« Reply #2 on Mar 3, 2010, 11:06am » | |
Wow, I have to say im in very similar shoes. my son is three, he was colic and it was hard but not as hard as dealing with my newborn colic 5 week old and trying to tend to my three year old. No one in our house is getting any sleep including the three year old. My husband also works nights and I just cry until he gets home some nights. I am hesitant to try prevacid and nutrimagin again because NOTHING helped with my son. We bought every bottle ever made, every colic product. I've come to the realization we are gonna have to wait it out and it's making me resent my daughter. anyway, I know this offers no help at all except that I'm in your shoes and I know it is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through!
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« Reply #3 on Mar 8, 2010, 10:34am » | |
Wow -- I found your post because I have the same issue as you. I have a colicky 5-week-old and a defiant 18-month toddler. I hate feeling like neither one is getting enough attention from mom, and all the attention I give to my newborn doesn't even make him happy. So everyone is miserable. I totally feel guilty about the fact that I'm not enjoying my newborn yet. If I'm honest about it, he's like a little alien to me. But I'm also struggling to maintain the right amount of patience with my toddler, who is very sweet but he is like a little octopus, he gets into EVERYTHING. But I know it's because I can't give him enough direction these days. So frustrating. I want nothing more than to be the best mama to my two boys, but these days I feel like the worst mama, sigh.
I guess I just wanted to let you know you're not alone! I'd love to hear what strategies have worked for you so far -- maybe we can exchange helpful tips? Or anytime you want to vent, or swap war stories, lemme know!
-colleen
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« Reply #4 on Mar 10, 2010, 1:08pm » | |
Hey atholbrose!! Your screen name is from one of my favorite bands of all time, The Cocteau Twins..I am a huge fan!!! A double colic survivor and a cocteau fan...cool!
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« Reply #5 on Apr 19, 2010, 6:40pm » | |
I myself had to colicky babies, the youngest of which is just turning 3 months. With my first Nutramigan worked wonders, you talk to your doctor about getting a prescription and see if insurnace will cover it. I have heard of it happening before. Also if you qualify wic will cover it with a note from the doctor. With my second she is on Nutramigan but it didn't really seem to help. What helped was alot of swining and bouncing and peppermint water every once in awhile. The peppermint water actually worked wonders but you can only give it to them a couple ounces a day. My daughter slept for 7 hours the first time I gave it to her. Just melt a peppermint in 2 ounces of water when you feel like she is in the most pain. Also, hang in there! My daughter is just now turning 3 months but has been pretty much colic free for about 2-3 weeks now! She is finally the happy baby I had always imagined 
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